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May 2nd, 2010


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01:03 am - If You Don't Give a Cute Girl Your Number Today, You Will Regret It for the Rest of Your Life
After a long, eventful day, it was time to return home. The first empty seat on BART happened to be by a cute girl, so I took it and began reading Feed.

We sat in silence until she said, "Oh, you're reading Feed!" Wait, what, how did she know about Feed? A friend of hers had read it and been raving about it. I pointed to the author and said, "She's my friend." I asked her what her friend's name was, since I might know her. Mulligan. Didn't ring any bells. She asked what the book was about, and I told her, and she thought it sounded really cool.

Also, it was not the book she was thinking of. She was thinking of the OTHER Feed. But I told her this one was really good, and I also recommended Rosemary and Rue, which she also seemed very interested in when I described it to her.

"I'm Sunil," I said, extending my hand. She shook it, giving her name: Maya.

She asked me what I did, and I told her, and she told me about her friend volunteering for an HIV drug trial. I asked what she did, and she said she was in massage school. She'd done a year of college and then gone traveling around the world, and now she was in massage school, and she also played the violin. She had just joined a psychedelic rock band called Morph Dwarf, whose music she described as ranging from Tool-style metal to...flamenco.

My heart began pounding as we reached the East Bay, knowing that our conversation would have to come to an end in a few stops. I considered asking for her number or e-mail address to continue the conversation. I don't know. She was cute and she talked to me. I suppose that's all it takes for me to think we have a connection.

Before I could formulate a way to do such a thing, though, we hit the 19th St. stop, and she got off, saying it was great to meet me. She may have shaken my hand again.

As soon as the doors closed, my head met the seat in front of me. Why hadn't I said anything?

The trains continued on to Macarthur, and I decided to be uncharacteristically bold, if only so I could write about it. I knew that 19th St. hadn't actually been her stop; she had been eyeing the train on the other track. She had only transferred. When our trains stopped at Macarthur, she would be there. I looked in my wallet. I pulled out my blogger business card, which had my number and e-mail address.

At Macarthur, I rushed out and walked across the platform to the other train. I stepped in the car and looked around. I didn't see her. Damn. I got out and walked toward the back of the train, looking in the windows of each car. I didn't see her. I made it all the way to the end. Maybe she had gotten off at 19th St. Well, at least I had tried.

I began walking back. And then through the open door of a car, I saw her. Talking to another guy. She was just friendly; she talked to everyone; I wasn't anyone special, of course.

Regardless, I walked into the car and said, "Maya." I handed her the card. "I would have regretted not doing this." I don't think she heard me or registered what was going on.

She looked at what I had handed her and said, "Oh! Thank you!" I waved goodbye and quickly got off the train before getting awkwardly trapped on it until the next stop. There may have been another exchange of "Nice to meet you"s, but I'm pretty sure I didn't say anything because I couldn't believe that had actually happened. What the hell was I thinking? She's not going to call or e-mail a crazy loser stalker guy who tries to pick up girls on public transportation.
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From:trailer_spot
Date:May 2nd, 2010 09:25 am (UTC)
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Standard phrase applies, you can't win if you don't play. And just as she doesn't know if you're a crazy stalker guy, you don't know if she regularly talks up guys to kill them later. Encouraging, isn't it? ;) Nevertheless, I think it's good thing what you did.
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From:spectralbovine
Date:May 2nd, 2010 03:54 pm (UTC)
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you don't know if she regularly talks up guys to kill them later
I had not considered that. Well, this should be fun. It was nice knowing you.
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From:the_partyman
Date:May 2nd, 2010 11:54 am (UTC)
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Dude! Whether she calls or emails you or not, bravo on the uncharacteristic boldness. Inspiring stuff. :)
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From:spectralbovine
Date:May 2nd, 2010 04:09 pm (UTC)
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I hope it inspires you to do something bold yourself!
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From:ora_wai
Date:May 2nd, 2010 12:29 pm (UTC)
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Wow, bold! I like it! I hope it turns out well for you.

(I dated a guy I met on a train, so it's possible!)
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From:spectralbovine
Date:May 2nd, 2010 03:56 pm (UTC)
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Oh, did you? How did that happen?
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From:jeeperstseepers
Date:May 2nd, 2010 12:46 pm (UTC)
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First of all, the guy she was talking to may have been someone she knows and often rides the train with. Second of all, even if she's just friendly, lots of "just friendly" people meet their future significant other by being just friendly to them and discovering, by doing so, that they like them as more than just a random person to talk to.

Of course there's a good chance she won't call you, if only because girls aren't used to being the ones who make that first call. But I'm glad you gave her the card. It was a good thing for you to do for yourself, and you know what? Whether she was interested in you or not, there's a good chance the flattery made her day.
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From:spectralbovine
Date:May 2nd, 2010 04:02 pm (UTC)
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Or creeped her out! (Although the tone of her "Oh! Thank you!" did not imply that. Maybe she's friendly AND polite.)

I hope the flattery made her day. That would be nice.
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From:smrou
Date:May 2nd, 2010 01:28 pm (UTC)
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Good for you! And whether she calls or not, at least the possibility is there so you don't have to wonder what might have been if only you'd been gutsier.
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From:spectralbovine
Date:May 2nd, 2010 04:04 pm (UTC)
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She was the one who initiated the conversation anyway! It's totally up to her whether she wants to continue.
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From:electricmonk
Date:May 2nd, 2010 01:34 pm (UTC)
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Hey, it doesn't matter if she calls or not. It matters that you did it. That's brilliant and brave and it'll just be the tiniest bit easier next time (on public transportation or not). High five.
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From:spectralbovine
Date:May 2nd, 2010 04:05 pm (UTC)
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Besides, this really made for a better story, and that's what counts.
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From:taeli
Date:May 2nd, 2010 03:43 pm (UTC)
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You rock! As someone who hasn't even gotten the guts up to smile at the ridiculously hot guy who sits across from me at work even though we've been playing eye chicken the last two weeks, I say you're headed in the right direction.

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From:spectralbovine
Date:May 2nd, 2010 04:06 pm (UTC)
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I command you to smile at him tomorrow. DO IT.
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From:dotificus
Date:May 2nd, 2010 04:22 pm (UTC)
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Is your LJ url on your blogger biz card? Because I think your LJ would make an appealing intro. to you. And I agree with those who say the great thing here is that you found the courage to make the follow-up effort. Go you!

(I forget-- have you read MT Anderson's FEED? It is fab.)
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From:spectralbovine
Date:May 2nd, 2010 04:29 pm (UTC)
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I have not.

My blogger card is not for LJ; it's for RTVW Online. I wouldn't want her to find my LJ because here I am, writing about her! ...Awkward.
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From:marzipan_pig
Date:May 2nd, 2010 04:34 pm (UTC)
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"She was cute and she talked to me."

Hey, what more do you need?

I think this story is ADORABLE and you should be proud of yourself!
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From:spectralbovine
Date:May 2nd, 2010 04:49 pm (UTC)
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Hey, what more do you need?
Out of life, little else. Except for the rest.
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From:aprilbegins
Date:May 2nd, 2010 05:24 pm (UTC)
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I'm proud of you! This calls for my assertive Pam icon.
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From:spectralbovine
Date:May 2nd, 2010 05:37 pm (UTC)
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One good Pam icon deserves another.
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From:ashfae
Date:May 2nd, 2010 05:49 pm (UTC)
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She might. =) I hope she does.
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From:spectralbovine
Date:May 2nd, 2010 06:05 pm (UTC)
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That would certainly be exciting. Or I could just show up at a Morph Dwarf show. They sound...interesting.
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From:etherealclarity
Date:May 2nd, 2010 05:53 pm (UTC)
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Whether she contacts you or not, I think you are awesome for tracking her down and managing to give her your info in (what sounds to me like a) thoroughly non-creepy way. Kudos. You should make a habit of this non-creepy boldness!
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From:spectralbovine
Date:May 2nd, 2010 06:08 pm (UTC)
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I don't know, making observations about people's eye movements and then assumptions about their intentions, followed by looking in train cars? What a weirdo!

I'm glad I realized about the cards, though, since I didn't have a pen or anything. It's a quick, easy, non-awkward way to give a girl your number! Guys too. But mostly girls.
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From:sophia_helix
Date:May 2nd, 2010 09:30 pm (UTC)
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You, sir, get a badass Sayid icon just for playing! I am proud of you. :)
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From:spectralbovine
Date:May 3rd, 2010 05:07 am (UTC)
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You, ma'am, may want to look up.
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From:kibarika
Date:May 2nd, 2010 11:40 pm (UTC)
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If she gets really stalkery, she can follow a link from your RTVW bio over here and read all about herself. I mean that in a good way.

Good for you! I have decided that life is about noticing opportunities and then refusing to ignore them.
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From:spectralbovine
Date:May 2nd, 2010 11:52 pm (UTC)
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If she gets really stalkery, she can follow a link from your RTVW bio over here and read all about herself. I mean that in a good way.
Oh, balls! I forgot I had that there. Oops.

I have decided that life is about noticing opportunities and then refusing to ignore them.
Yep!
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From:dlgood
Date:May 3rd, 2010 03:07 am (UTC)
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She's not going to call or e-mail a crazy loser stalker guy who tries to pick up girls on public transportation.

Well she wasn't going to call the guy whose number she didn't have. And it's not like you have a dwindling supply of cards and can never get more. Didn't cost you anything.
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From:sterope
Date:May 3rd, 2010 04:20 am (UTC)
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Good for you for being bold. I'm never bold, hence being 27 and still single, but whatevs.
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From:wiscck
Date:May 3rd, 2010 04:35 am (UTC)
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Good for you! I've been blushing at the cute barista at my local Starbucks for, like, a year now. I am unable to talk to him unless I'm ordering coffee.
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From:spectralbovine
Date:May 3rd, 2010 04:42 am (UTC)
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That's a different situation. Because you have to see him regularly, so you don't want it to be awkward if you're too forward and he doesn't reciprocate. With strangers on BART, you have nothing to lose but your dignity!
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From:incidentist
Date:May 3rd, 2010 05:58 am (UTC)
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Actually, you've got enough of these "I made good conversation with a stranger" stories that I don't consider this to be *uncharacteristically* bold. If you had a tag for "uncharacteristic boldness", it'd have a lot of posts.

Anyway, you should think of yourself as a characteristically bold person, because it's true.
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From:spectralbovine
Date:May 3rd, 2010 06:05 am (UTC)
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That's just weird. And it's not making conversation with a stranger that's bold. I already knew I could do that. It was giving her my number via my card. I've never done that before. Except that one time, sort of, and that didn't go anywhere.
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From:cucumbersarnies
Date:May 3rd, 2010 09:01 am (UTC)
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Well done! I would be freaked if it happened to me, (but then it doesn't take much to freak me), but deeply, deeply flattered. If nothing else, then you probably made her day.
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From:spectralbovine
Date:May 3rd, 2010 02:15 pm (UTC)
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I hope she took it the right way.
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From:bspalek
Date:May 4th, 2010 04:37 am (UTC)
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I am in awe that you did that. If means anything I would totally call you! What you did was cute, and it takes GUTS. You have to grab life, and that means being ready to grab LOVE when it comes your way. I am hugging you in my head. =-)
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From:spectralbovine
Date:May 4th, 2010 04:46 am (UTC)
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Well, I'm sure it wasn't LOVE, but it was something. Not every day you meet a cute psychedelic violinist masseuse, after all.
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From:thetheatremouse
Date:May 8th, 2010 06:42 pm (UTC)
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Geez, Sunil. Sometimes you're downright dreamy.

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