March 23rd, 2008
|08:49 pm - Show You Just How Good Being Touched Could Be|
A pretty woman you've only known for about an hour gives you a hug and follows it up by giving you a friendly rub on the arm, and you somehow feel more validated as a person, like the time you discovered that a complimentary comment on a post came from a very pretty girl, like the time a pretty girl went from "It was nice meeting you" to "It was really nice meeting you" in the course of spending a few hours with you, like all the times you've managed to get a pretty girl who doesn't even know you to smile or laugh. It's not necessarily connected to the potential for romance (because, really, there never is), and the effect sometimes fades once you get to know the person (and they become more than just a pretty face), but the pretty women of the world, they do have a mysterious power over you, the ability to make you feel that you are better than you are, for a small moment.
In this year of many changes, it's nice to know that in some respects, you haven't changed at all.
Current Mood: headache-y
Current Music: Fiona Apple - Across the Universe
That is so awesome!
But I think the ugly girls of the world just took a self-esteem swan dive.
Drawing just a smile from a pretty face is one of life's great moments. There's so much power there that it's not even fair.
Right?? I'm glad someone gets it (you being one of the few men who read me). It's like you helped make the world a better place.
Ooo, which pretty woman are we talking about? I thought the dark-haired pretty woman in the striped shirt was more than just pretty, she was a total knock-out, but there were many pretty women to choose from.
Yeah, she was very pretty. I'm talking about the one with short hair whose husband's back was out running errands.
So good to see you finally! Good old Purim, finally bringing us together again.
It's strange how knowing you put a smile on a girl's face can perk up your whole day. It's almost an instinctual reaction, really.
You know it's incredibly comforting to know there are guys out there who see woman the way you described here.
Thank you. That's good to hear.
|Date:||March 24th, 2008 02:22 pm (UTC)|| |
I'm glad you felt warm and fuzzy.
I find the ... automatic? reaction to a pretty face odd, I can't help it. It just seems so empty, like celebrating her for something that isn't her.
But I'd much rather flirt with a witty cutie than a witty okie. Guess it is automatic.
Don't think her beauty isn't really "her". I've known many women with the potential for beauty who by neglecting their looks, probably through simply believing they're not beautiful, become unattractive. And I've seen many many pretty women whose beauty is constant maintenance of hair style, make-up, and figure control. Take away the make-up and the styled hair, and they're nothing special. Very few women "just naturally" meet our cultural standard of beauty (they may spend a lot of time and money to look like they do, though). It takes effort and attention, a willingness to learn how to do it, and most of all, a belief in one's own ability to be beautiful. Lots of women aren't pretty SOLELY because they don't think they can be. Hell, I've seen many women who could become "prettier" just by improving their posture and learning how to walk gracefully. It isn't that hard.
Just watch one of those make-over shows. They take a woman who looks plain, teach her what clothes look good on her body, teach her how to do her make-up and her hair, and maybe they give her a quick visit to a dermatologist or a dentist, and surprise - beautiful woman. She was always beautiful. She just didn't know how to present it.
So basically, I'm saying that being pretty is indeed a part of who she is. She didn't have any control over her facial structure or her body type, but she does control how she presents herself to the world, and that is really is the difference between "attractive" or "unattractive".
(I didn't know I had this much to say about it. I may re-post and expand on this later in my own LJ.)
:) I think we all kind of have this reaction to people, not even just romantic interest people, but even people you're friend-crushing on - people that seem to have a little extra glow or zing about them, when they notice you and include you, or single you out for a minute, then it makes you feel a little better (or a little prettier, if normally you don't feel that you're a pretty girl - or a cute boy, I guess). Whether it's because they're a cute guy, or a pretty girl, or someone who just seems to have something extra in their personality.
Yes!!! That's totally exactly it. You just feel good for making an impression on someone who's made such an impression on you.
:) I'm sure N. would be happy to hear that!
C. *is* beautiful. Also hilarious!
You have good friends! And N. seemed to agree. And unlike me, you have lots of different friends from lots of different sources, so you can have events that bring them together. Whereas I don't tend to mix my friends up enough to make new friend connections. Although I totally should because I am all about bringing cool people together.
Also, now I have that Sweeney Todd song in my head, only about 10,000 less creepy than when Sweeney & the judge sing it.
If there's one thing I like, it's being less creepy than Sweeney Todd.
Ha! They both hold a lot of sway, indeed.
The rest of us just have to rely on being charming and funny. But I understand what you mean.
I try to use my power for good.
|Date:||March 24th, 2008 08:31 pm (UTC)|| |
It's nice that you wrote this in second person. And in a week in which I don't really understand men and wish I didn't feel so lame for being a woman, it's nice to read that sometimes things are very simple.
You're always so refreshing, Sunil. You can't see it, but I smile at you every time you post.
Awww. Thank you. That makes me smile. Thank you, really. I always imagine the worst of what I can't see, so it's nice to hear that some of the things I can't see are quite positive.
I wrote a lot of journal entries in the second person back in the day. It's very fun to do, and it's quite appropriate for someone who talks to himself all the time. Introspection is easier when you stand outside yourself. Also, I wish I were as cool as Lorrie Moore.
And, finally, you should never feel lame for being a woman!
Sometimes I am hugely suspicious of people who have this power and know it. Other times they have the exact same effect on me. Interesting to hear it from your perspective, anyway.